Hi, M.T. I feel very strongly that I am independent from my parents. I disowned my parents after my divorce, and they changed their mindset and perspectives and worked on themselves so that they could be in my life. But if they did not change, they would not be in my life. I am lucky that my parents love my boyfriend and accept him. But I didn't need them to love him and accept him. I left my family to pave my own life. I move 3,000 away from them. And I only came back, years later, when I knew they'd changed. But I was prepared to never come back. I'm sorry you're going through this. But this is your life. You need to decide which is more important to you at this point, because it doesn't seem like you can have both. your family or your life partner?